1.
I introduced myself and told him that was the first time I use Chatroulette. I asked him how long he has been using it because I was wondering if there is some one likes to use it every day. He said that was his first time to use it. And I want to find out what makes them so addicted into this internet social network. I talked to him at first, when we got to know each other a little bit more and a little bit more comfortable, I asked him to show his face. He only showed his belly in the frame all the time and refused to show his face. He said I would switch him for sure if I see his face, I said no. But no matter how I said, He just refused to show. This related to the reading that people on the internet try to hide their face because they have fear that people reject them by their out looking. This people don't satisfy in the real live because their not good looking. And now they get online to hide their weakness to make new friends that don't know their looking at the first point.
2.
This guy is from somewhere in European that I have never heard the name and I can’t remember the name. He looked normal to me, at least he didn't show somewhere that other than face at the first point. We talk about the city he is from and talk about me as well. I asked him how long he has been using Chatroulette, and he said that was his first time too. Like the first guy, I was surprised that the first two persons that I met in Chatroulette was their first time too. Now I am wondering one more thing; Do people really addicted on this website, or just once a while, or will stop after the curious first time usage. While he was on chatroulette, I noticed that he was watching TV too. And he was like paying more attention to the TV more than me. I felt like I was just put there in the computer and be with him. Was he lonely and wanted to have someone to be with him watching TV. In the reading, I remember that webcams use as connection or tool that make people feel together. Someone just don't want to be alone. This time, webcam chat become a tool that connect two people in a different places to be in the same place.
3.
This horny guy was keep touching his penis all the time and hided his face. I talked to him a little bit honestly, and I told him that he looked horny. He said I am pretty. I pretended laughed for a second. I didn't feel happy by his compliment at all because I know that his compliment was for something. He was doing that touching-penis behavior to me all the time, I can tell that he wanted me to do it do. He flirted me and compliment to me are all for the one thing he wanted. Like the reading, People doing something actually means they what you to do the exact thing they want. Like " I do it, you do it". By that time, I was thinking that people get satisfy on internet social network that can hide face and just show on of his body part. Will they really paired someone on the Chatroulette they wanted?
4.
This naked guy talked to me with few sentences, not much. He is from Canada. And his thought is the same as he looked, naked. He liked dirty talk and flirting talk. I told him I was doing my project, and he responded: “on me?” =.= <- my face. Most of the online webcam social networks are about sexuality like somewhere in the reading. I don't remember it clearly exactly where but I know there is something talked about it. It talked about online sexuality became a big topic on internet. And now I ask myself, do human all interested in sex? That's why the internet became like this.
5.
I think I wouldn’t see any Asian guy on this website. But, I accidently paired up with a Chinese guy who is 15, and he was using Chatroulette to practice his English. That was impressive! He told me that he is from He Nan. He failed his English class and he wants to improve his English. That's why his using this most "English-Only" website to talk to random people. I finally changed my original thought of that all people who uses Chatroulette are wired. There is really someone who uses online random video-chat to study, use it in a positive way. How positive! I realized that I was wrong to judge people before get to know them. And human always do judging on something by the first sign. Now the webcam technology thing is so popular, it's all because of the judge of the first sign. People judge people by looking, so people use online avatar to hide, etc.
6.
This masturbating guy showed his penis at the first time. I really want to talk to him like I mentioned at the first place to find out why those guys like to do this through video-chat. I asked him to show his face at first, he did. He was not bad looking and buff. I asked him why he likes to do it in front of webcam instead watching porn. He told me that he liked real people. And I asked why not going out find girls. He said he liked to do this. I was wondering how come people don't like physically real people? As the reading talked about, people using camera and put a performance on it. They like to be in the frame and perform something they wanna see themselves. Narcissism is the main psychological part that takes place in this whole performance here. And then we kept talking for a while. Surprisingly, that he was not masturbating for at least 5 minutes to talk to me. But things came back, he wanted me to take off my clothes to help him come. I rejected many times and he was begging. I didn't know what to do anymore, so I wished him to find one who is can and I said bye. Afterward, I was thinking that he might be a good guy. Because he doesn't have girlfriend and just masturbating at home instead of going out and sleeping around with random girls. Now I changed my point of view again. I just need to get to know them in their way, not in my way. So I could understand. This is a big change of me!! I original thought was all masturbating guys are nasty and "ewwww" on Chatroulette. But now I started thinking they might be good guys somehow. What an interesting thought and experience!
7.
I asked the same question as the last one to this masturbating guy. He just said “why not doing masturbate by using Chatroulette”. I asked more, he just simply answered without detail. I think he was just too busy to masturbate instead talking. And he never showed his face again. People really like to hide something on the internet, and that exactly is the huge benefit on internet. And also that's the difference from real life.
8.
This is a guy from Brazil. He was wiping his face and nose with a towel at the first time. He was not a bad talking guy. But so far, I just realized that I talked almost the same conversation to everyone on Chatroulette. No matter who, they ask me all the same questions, the questions to get to know someone. By that time, I was thinking that if it is truth that people can really get to know new people on here, or just routinely asking same questions and responding same answers. My new thought is people barely can really get to know someone on here(I mean become friends). And also he was doing his daily thing with me on the webcam, but he didn't pay much attention on me. Did he just want to have someone watch his daily life? Like the reading mentioned, people like to put their live on the stage and let people watch it.
9.
This was the only girl who stopped there and talk to me. I paired up with some girls before and they just skipped. On that time, I felt an invisible sadness of their rejection. Did I also have the "fear of rejection" like the reading said? I don't know. I talked to this girl just a little bit and then she skipped me quickly. She wasn't interested in me and she moved on to look for the one she is interested in. People find fun and self-satisfaction on internet. Now I am sure that Chatroulette is a good place to looking for “new” friends, some fun, and self-satisfaction by the experience from this project.
10.
Like routine, I asked him basic questions, he asked me some things. We got to know each other more and more. And after all those routine questions, a guy always go to subjects on sex like most of the guys did to a girls. They act like asking, testing girls interest, and talk into those subjects. Once they become comfortable, they started talk sex.
And at the end, my conclusion is the most popular taking subject is sex no matter how normal the beginning is. I feel like they are themselves; they find themselves through doing this or they feel better doing this. Surprisingly, my fear at the beginning was gone. I am no longer fear to talk to the strangers, and horny guys. And I feel it is interesting to get out from my world, my way, and to know someone in their way. After I talk to them and get to know them more, I realized that they are regular human with nothing wrong, and they just do what they want and what they need. There is nothing wrong by doing all those things; I need to use their way to get to know them. Just like watching performance in live. Once I understand, all the weird feelings are gone. This project is so fun!! I actually learned a lot and experienced a lot through this. i don't know how, but I feel like I found a new part of me. I broke my fears and now I am brave. This is like an experiment to test me to understand thing by the other point of views. This discovery shocked me but I am happy! ^.^
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